We are sure that you have discussed having a family with your partner, at least generally. But it is also a fact that nothing complicates a relationship more than having kids. We know, children are the most amazing blessing, but it puts your bond to the test.
It is necessary to safeguard your connection by talking frankly about your feelings and expectations with your partner. You may have a lot of questions in your mind such as, can we afford to have a kid right now? Do we need to contact a gynecologist before getting pregnant? How can we prepare for a healthy pregnancy? There are a few things you should discuss with your partner before getting pregnant, which are as follows:
1. Why now?
There is no right or wrong time to discuss it with your partner, but it is very important to know that you and your partner are on the same page. You should know about what you value, how are your relationship as a couple and you both ready to have a baby now.
2. How will this affect us as a couple?
Adding a person in your life can alter things a little differently. But do not panic about anything. Discuss all the expectations and fears with your partners. A baby is not going to make things easy for both of you, so make sure to solidifying your bond first and foremost.
Some couples think that by having kids, they will be closer to each other. But the fact is, a baby can be a reason for stress in your relationship as it is a huge responsibility and most couples start it without any preparation. So, try to start stronger otherwise things will only get worse.
3. How do we want to be as a parent?
As a couple, you should discuss what kind of parent you both want to be in the future. You may want to unpack your childhood memories a bit. What was so great in your childhood and what was the most awful things you want to avoid?
You can ask your family members, their experiences as a parent. You can discuss it with your parents. Couples need to express their feelings as a parent to each other. And it is good to discuss it again and again so that you can get a better idea about it. In this way, you can define your paths rather than others (your parents).
4. What we will do for childcare?
It is the right time to talk about childcare, who will work and who will stay at home with the baby. We know, today’s couples have a lot of options in their lives, but it is also necessary to fulfill the demands of living. So talking about it before pregnancy is an important step in planning.
If both, partners, will be going back to work after baby, then you will need to hire a nanny. You can ask your parents to take on for a few days. A daycare center can also be helpful in this regard. But try to find a solution that is comfortable for both of you.
5. How we will discipline?
By using the word of discipline, it does not mean just perfection, it is more than that. We learn about discipline from our parents and each family is different. So, it might take a longer time for couples to understand the meaning of discipline and follow it. A couple should talk about how they were disciplined in their childhood and how they want to discipline their baby.
6. How will we make time for our relationship after the baby?
When a baby will arrive in your life, he or she will demand all your time, affection, and energy. So, you can have an idea that you may not have a little to no time for your relationship. Sometimes, you may grow distant from your partner without any intention.
It is good to think about the time and love that you have and use it in your relationship with your partner to make it stronger.
7. What if trying to get pregnant is challenging for us?
If you are planning to have a baby but there is a possibility that you may not get pregnant right away. It is important to talk about adoption and surrogacy if you are unable to conceive. Infertility is a nightmare for some couples, and they do not know how to deal with it.
Assuming that your partner is also okay with whatever you think about it, without even talking, it can be a big disappointment and disaster.
8. How can I prepare myself for a healthy pregnancy?
It is the most important thing to discuss before getting pregnant. You should start taking folic acid as soon as you decided to get pregnant. You should follow a balanced diet plan along with a workout. Exercise is very helpful for pregnant women during delivery. Last but not the least, it is always soothing to a mother to keep praying for a successful pregnancy.
9. Are the antenatal classes being important?
If you are going to experience pregnancy for the first time then we must say yes, it is important. You can learn so much in antenatal classes and even you can get an opportunity to ask questions or whatever you have in your mind.
We know, these things are not just a practice, but it will make a difference when you will have a child. You want to give your best and we can assure you that after proper discussion and planning it will be a lot easier for you to do so.
10. Do I need to look for a gynecologist before getting pregnant?
Yes, you need to look for a gynecologist before getting pregnant. In this way, you can get to know about your physical condition. If you do not already have a gynecologist, then it is the right time to search for it. You can ask your friends or family members for recommendations.