How To Raise Your First Child? | Best Code For New Parents

Becoming a first-time parent can be exhilarating and overwhelming all at the same time. This is mainly because there are pieces of advice pouring in from everywhere you look at. In the midst of all this, how would you know which suggestion is going to be all the more worth to you? Who should you believe when it comes to the guidance about the best parenting style you should adopt for your first child?

Look, parenting is a full-time job. You now have the responsibility of raising a child and you must do it with absolute determination. But you are human after all and you can always make mistakes. However, you need to ensure that you learn from the bad experiences that you have along the road.

Parenting your first kid is a performance. You need to do the best you can for the rest of your life. You need to make choices that are right for your kids and you need to teach them how to make the right choices for themselves. Amid the dozens of parenting styles, everyone talks about these days, you have to figure out what’s best for your child, considering your own circumstances.

As you move on to the journey of this new parenthood, you will learn a lot of new things and you will share hundreds of experiences. But you need to ensure that you and your spouse are in this journey together, for the sake of your kid.

As a new parent, you are always afraid. You are bound to stumble but you must look for answers in order to be good at what you do.

So we’ve compiled this handy guide of quick tips from in-the-know parents and experts to get you started and give you the confidence you need to embrace your new role.

You must learn to live in the now

Now that your baby has arrived, it is time to take a step back and enjoy the now, the time you now share with your little munchkin.

Take some time off from your checklist and learn to appreciate the little things. Connect with that little soul in your hands and enjoy every moment of it.

Do not stress about their meals

We have seen that most of the parents are always stressing about the eating habits of their toddlers. They’re always looking for newer foods and replacements that their kid may or may not like.

One thing you need to understand is that your child is human after all. You cannot pour a gulp of milk down his throat as you do to yourself. Your child will eat when he is hungry. Do not bug him with food every time he cries.

Don’t walk on eggshells while your baby is asleep

One thing that we have noticed among most of the children is that they adapt to the environment you’re providing them according to your own understanding.

We have seen a lot of babies having trouble sleeping in noisy environments because their parents developed a habit of hushing everyone down once their baby went to sleep.

When your baby is a toddler, the habits you will develop by then will carry on throughout his life. Make sure you make him used to sleep under all kinds of circumstances. When he has fallen asleep, watch TV on a moderate volume or vacuum your place, even talk to your mother if you want to.

Trust us, your baby will not wake up.

Also read: My baby is making weird noises while sleeping? Is it normal?

Keep your baby awake during the feedings

Do not feed your baby while he is asleep. That just not makes him eat or take feed slowly but it also disturbs his sleeping hours.

We have observed that a baby sleeps well and for longer hours is he has been fed right before it. Feed your baby and then make him fall asleep. You will notice how soundly he will asleep after that.

Stick to an early bedtime

Bed timings are so important yet so disturbed in the first few weeks once the baby arrives. Of course, this is bound to happen but you cannot let this go on for a long time.

As your baby grows, you need to ensure that you make him habitual of going to bed early. The earlier he sleeps, the more time you will get to recharge your own batteries.

Learn to say no

This is by far the hardest thing a parent has to do but he must learn to say no.

You should say no and turn down not just unwanted pieces of advice from the people who surround you and question your parenting but also to your kid.

As time goes by, you will learn that the well-being of your child is the most important thing to consider and you must say no to some of his harmful requests to give him a better future.

You need to be ready for the sick days

It’s that time of life when your side table drawer is going to be occupied with medicines and syrups.

Stock up on rehydration drinks like Pedialyte, Gatorade, or Vitamin Water. So you don’t have to run to the store in the middle of the night when your little one is vomiting.

You need to remember that you are a role model

Everything your child does, he learns it from you so you need to ensure that you set the right examples. This is the biggest responsibility that has fallen on to your shoulders and you must take it seriously.

Do not set bad examples, do not be rude and teach your child the moral values you learned while growing up. You are the biggest role model in your baby’s life so you need to take your own stances seriously now.

As you’re a mom, make sure you let your kid know how wonderful it is so that someday, she would want to be a mom herself. Teach her everything that you have learned and make sure you do not set wrong values in front of her.

So, these are a few of our tips for all the new parents out there. We hope this article was helpful to you and you now have a clear sense of perspective.

If you have any questions or suggestions in this regard, do let us know through email in the Contact section.


Also read: Why Is My Baby Always Sticking Out Tongue?

Dr. Syed Ahmad Raza
Dr. Syed Ahmad Raza

Medical Officer at Ammar Medical Complex, Founder at Therightparenting and Owner and Founder at OOPER with Syed Ahmad Raza

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When And Why Do You Need Antenatal Checkups?

Congratulations! You are going to be a mommy. Seeing the urine strip say positive can be a euphoric experience for many. But once the initial surprise or shock or ecstasy is over, pregnancies can be overwhelming. Especially, if it is your first pregnancy, there is some preparation that you need to do. This informed planning is also necessary if you are deciding to start a family. You must be aware of what you are getting yourself into, to ensure a stable physical and mental health. Let’s now talk about antenatal checkups.

Antenatal checkups are crucial for adequate well-being of your baby and you. It is very important to have a doctor who is familiar with your history, keeps a track of your pregnancy and will be available in case of emergency. And this kind of doctor-patient relationship is only built if you are also compliant with your appointments.

First antenatal checkup

The first antenatal checkup must be as soon as you miss your period. Your home pregnancy tests may not be accurate. So, you must visit your doctor. The doctor will take some blood tests to get an idea of your baseline health. He or she will also perform an abdominal ultrasound to ensure the healthy implantation of an embryo (a teeny tiny version of your baby)

In this visit, you must discuss with your doctor the medications you take and the supplements you might require.

Second antenatal checkup

The second antenatal checkup must be between 7-10 weeks. This checkup is important because, after 7 weeks of your pregnancy, the fetus develops a beating heart. This activity confirms the vitality of pregnancy. If the scan at this stage does not show fetal heart activity, give your little one a week’s time. Some babies develop a beating heart a little later.

Schedule of antenatal checkups

After the confirmation that you have an alive fetus in your womb, the ideal schedule for an antenatal checkup is as follows:

  • 1 visit per month till 7th month (28 weeks)
  • 1 visit after every two weeks till the beginning of 9th month (36 weeks)
  • 1 visit every week till the end of pregnancy (36-40 weeks)

These scheduled antenatal checkups are meant to keep a record of your health and your baby’s progress. Any abnormal change or finding can be easily caught on time if you are visiting your OB/GYN regularly. This will result in a healthy, uncomplicated delivery and will also give your baby a better shot at life.

Week 20 antenatal checkup

It is a must to schedule an antenatal checkup in or immediately after your week 20 of pregnancy. The reason being that in this week, major organs of your baby start to form or have developed by now. An ultrasound can pick any congenital abnormalities or syndrome easily.

If an ultrasound is not enough, blood testing at this stage can also help a great deal. Your doctor might need to poke a needle inside your tummy to get your baby’s blood and your baby sac fluid as well to ensure that the mother and the baby are doing fine. This test is known as amniocentesis.

Week 30 antenatal checkup

Week 30 antenatal checkup also holds a special significance. After the 30th week of your pregnancy, the baby’s head is supposed to be facing downwards towards your vagina. The position of the baby’s head can be assessed at this stage by an ultrasound or a per-vaginal examination.

If the baby fails to turn his head down, your doctor will decide how to proceed next. Some doctors prefer to wait a little while to give the baby more time. Some perform a maneuver called ‘External Cephalic Rotation’. In this maneuver, the doctor tries to turn the head down by putting circular pressure on your tummy. If the baby still prefers to stay upright (because of some physical obstruction, which too can be seen on a sonogram!) your doctor then needs to plan an elective cesarean delivery.

Conditions requiring more than recommended antenatal checkups

Your doctor might advise you to visit him or her more often than the schedule we mentioned earlier. This does not mean that he or she is less competent or that he or she is trying to mooch off money out of you. Some health conditions do require an extra number of antenatal visits.

Having a baby after 30

Medical science suggests having a baby before 30 years as it is a healthier option. If you are having a baby after 30, especially near or after your 40s, you need to be extra vigilant. You have increased chances of developing high blood pressures, high blood sugar levels, and early labor.

Your baby is also at a higher risk of developing congenital birth defects. You need more antenatal checkups to catch and manage these problems before they can cause life-long, irreversible damage.

Health conditions that develop during pregnancy or are pre-existing

Some of you will already be suffering from health conditions like diabetes and high blood pressures. Some will develop these conditions during pregnancy. If you are already suffering from such vices, or have a family history or other risk factors, it is a must to have your antenatal checkups more often and more vigilantly. This will help in managing the complications of these diseases.

Rupture of membranes/abnormal bleeding/risk of pre-term labor

If you feel a gush of fluid being discharged from your vagina or there is abnormal bleeding, this might mean your baby is on the way to the world a little earlier. If any of such signs occur, or if you have a previous history or family history of pre-term labor, you need an antenatal checkup to asses the condition of the baby.

Based on this checkup, your doctor will decide if your pregnancy should continue or if you need to terminate it or get an operation to deliver the baby.

In conclusion, at least 10-12 antenatal checkups are necessary to track your baby’s health, not to forget yours as well! You should keep a record of all such visits and they should be available with you. Your doctor can tweak your visits tailored to your specific needs.

Dr. Syed Ahmad Raza
Dr. Syed Ahmad Raza

Medical Officer at Ammar Medical Complex, Founder at Therightparenting and Owner and Founder at OOPER with Syed Ahmad Raza

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Health Risks In First Pregnancy – A Detailed Analysis For New Mothers

Your first pregnancy is going to be a scary ride. It does not matter if it’s a planned one or a pleasant surprise, the first time you go through the 9 months of childbearing will indeed be difficult. You will require a lot of preparation, physically and mentally. But that should not overwhelm you. Your body has been preparing for this since you hit puberty!

It is advisable to gain some necessary information before you start trying to conceive. Talking to your doctor and reading up on various issues involving your first pregnancy will make this journey a lot smoother. We are here to help you with that.

In this article, we shall be focusing on the diseases and various health issues that have a higher risk of afflicting you during your first pregnancy. Their risk then gradually decreases with the number of pregnancies you acquire. We shall try to equip you with the essential, easy to understand, information on fighting with these conditions.

Pre-eclampsia in first pregnancy

The first disease that we would like you to know about is pre-eclampsia. In simple terms, it means that your blood pressure has risen to a value that has starting damaging your internal organs. Your kidneys start passing out important proteins in the urine. Your vision becomes blurry. You start developing body swellings that hamper your functionality. Your liver starts getting inflamed. This damage to your internal organs causes problems for you as well as your baby.

Pre-eclampsia is not only dangerous to your organs, but it also is a predecessor to a much harmful situation called Eclampsia. In eclampsia, the mother develops fits whose only treatment is the delivery of the baby.

The following people are at a higher risk:

  • Women in their first pregnancy
  • Teenage women
  • Females older than 40
  • Women having sisters or mothers with the same issues
  • Women having diabetes or high blood pressure issues before pregnancy

Since prevention is better than cure, we advise you to get baseline testing of your liver and kidney functions as well as sugar and blood pressure levels. It would be best to get them before conception but you must visit your OB/GYN as soon as you find out about your pregnancy.

If you have developed any of the above-mentioned symptoms, report to the outpatient department and make sure that your blood pressure medication is adjusted accordingly. When you are discharged, make sure that you are clear on how to manage the symptoms at home and when to report back to the doctor.

Urinary tract infections in first pregnancy

For women who are going to become mothers for the first time, urinary tract infections are a very common nuisance. The smooth muscle in your vulva and vagina becomes relaxed as a response to pregnancy hormones which makes it easier for the infectious bacteria to crawl up and become an inhabitant in your urethra.

The following mothers are at a higher risk:

  • Women becoming pregnant very early after the initiation of a sexual relationship
  • The women who have multiple sexual partners
  • Women taking antibiotics or immunosuppressive medications

These urinary tract infections are generally easy to ward off in non-pregnant women. But in women having their first baby, these can lead to kidney damage and early rupture of the baby’s sac. That is why it is important to report to your doctor if there is any kind of burning or pain while urinating and/or foul-smelling or odd-colored discharge from your urethral area.

The doctor will then start you on proper antibiotics to help fight these infections before they can do more harm.

Gestational Diabetes in first pregnancy

This term implies the kind of diabetes that affects you only during pregnancy. It appears while you are bearing a child and luckily, goes away with childbirth. But during this span of time, it can cause a lot of unwanted and sometimes irreversible damage. Gestational diabetes means that your pancreas is not able to produce enough insulin now to manage your blood sugar levels.

Women having their first baby, especially older than 40 and having a family history of such a condition are more at risk. This disease can lead to an overly-enlarged baby, which in turn will pose difficulties during delivery. Gestational diabetes can also damage your kidneys.

If it is your first pregnancy, it is ideal to keep a record of your pre and post meals blood sugar levels. Start noting down these levels in the form of a chart after week 20 of your pregnancy. Take the record of one week to your doctor. He or she will then perform some further testing and will start you on a specific diet or insulin accordingly. Better be safe than sorry!

Hemolytic disease of the newborn

There is another disease that we would like to explain. That’s because it has to be managed during the first pregnancy for the sake of your second one. Hemolytic disease of the newborn rarely affects your first baby but the damaging process starts while you are pregnant with your first child.

What happens is that if you have a blood group of a negative category (e.g. A-ve, B-ve) and your husband/partner has the blood group of a positive category, there are chances that you will conceive a baby with the positive blood group.

The baby’s positive blood cells will enter your bloodstream through the placenta. These positive blood cells of your baby will then act as foreign substances in your blood. Your body will respond by producing anti-bodies to destroy those foreign entities. The foreign blood cells will be killed off, which is not harmful in itself. The harm arises when these antibodies cross the placenta and start damaging your baby.

During your first pregnancy, the antibodies shall be forming. Your first baby shall be safe unless there is some inevitable mixing of large amounts of blood (for instance if the placenta ruptures.) Nevertheless, during the delivery of your first child, there is definitely going to be some mixing of blood. These antibodies will then be prepared to attack your second baby and create havoc. So, the point to be learned from this story is that before or during your first pregnancy, get your partner’s and your blood groups tested. If you are at risk, an appropriate course of anti-D-antibodies must be done to prevent this.

Dr. Syed Ahmad Raza
Dr. Syed Ahmad Raza

Medical Officer at Ammar Medical Complex, Founder at Therightparenting and Owner and Founder at OOPER with Syed Ahmad Raza

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